Saying Sorry and Excusing Oneself
A distinct characteristic of the Filipinos is to remain respectful in whatever situation they may be in. This is revealed by the different ways of saying "excuse me" and "sorry". Although some of the expression to say sorry may at times be interchangeable with other expressions to excuse oneself, there are expressions that should particularly be used in certain situations.
Trivia:
Filipinos say "Pasénsiya ka na" when guests visit their home and are not able to prepare for it. They usually say this to their visitors when they couldn't provide much food to eat or if the house looks untidy."Pasénsiya na" is an expression, which is dictated with an apologetic tone, that means "Please be patient (with me)." The word pasénsiyá literally means "patience". Filipinos use this expression in different situations and can be interchanged with the expression "paumanhín". On one hand, the phrase pasénsiya na is generally used to acknowledge one's mistake and ask someone to be patient with you. As you say "pasénsiya na", it is just ethical to admit and explain the mistake or deed, which might have offended or caused distress to others.
On the other hand, you can ask for an apology to excuse oneself for a mistake or accident that has been done by saying "paumanhín." You can also use this expression when you have to excuse yourself from a conversation or activity you are currently involved with. "Paumanhín, áalis muna akó," is what Filipinos would tell a person when they want to say that they have to leave and proceed to their next agenda. Meanwhile, the expression "patawad" can be used as well to apologize for a physical injury or emotional pain that you have caused to a person.
In general, Filipinos often use pasénsiya na as the two expressions paumanhín and patawad are a bit too formal. These expressions are more suitable to use for official letters, emails or documents and formal events such as speeches, debates, and lectures. It would be odd to use paumanhín and patawad for casual conversations, but these are still acceptable and can be understood in any circumstance. The expression pasénsiya na would be more appropriate to use for casual and everyday conversations.
Examples:
Examples:
Scenario: Jane will come in late for a meeting.
Jane: Please be patient with me. I’ll be late for the meeting.
Jane: Please be patient with me. I’ll be late for the meeting.
Scenario: Jane apologizes for accidentally hurting her friend Ana while playing.
Jane: I’m sorry, Ana!
Jane: I’m sorry, Ana!
Scenario: Joe calls his friends and tells them that he will not be able to join them for dinner.
Joe: I'm sorry. I can't join (you all for tonight).
Joe: I'm sorry. I can't join (you all for tonight).
Scenario: Jane writes an official email to apologize for an inconvenience that her client is experiencing.
Jane: I apologize for the inconvenience you are experiencing right now.
Jane: I apologize for the inconvenience you are experiencing right now.
Examples:
Examples:
Examples:
Scenario: A newscaster on the television reports a horrific accident.
Newscaster: For our viewers, please be forewarned that the following images you are about to see may be offensive for some.
Newscaster: For our viewers, please be forewarned that the following images you are about to see may be offensive for some.
Scenario: Jane is about to discuss a sensitive topic about obesity.
Jane: Excuse me, but there is a great increase of overweight people and it's important to inform them about this health issue.
Jane: Excuse me, but there is a great increase of overweight people and it's important to inform them about this health issue.
Lesson Summary:
Different types of expressions are used to say your apologies and excuse yourself from a situation. There are expressions to be used for
1.) Apologies or asking for forgiveness
2.) Asking for a person to hear you out
3.) Passing through
4.) Forewarning people to prepare and set aside their activities for an unpleasant matter.
Know the most appropriate phrase you should use in different scenarios.
1.) Apologies or asking for forgiveness
2.) Asking for a person to hear you out
3.) Passing through
4.) Forewarning people to prepare and set aside their activities for an unpleasant matter.
Know the most appropriate phrase you should use in different scenarios.