Ryan Koo (COMEDIAN) EPISODE # 199 The Paco Arespacochaga Podcast
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Ladies and gentlemen, live at Pockets Place,
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We got this in post.
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I listened to everyone's and everyone left
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when it was my turn.
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Such a bitch, no?
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Story of my life.
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What made you go into comedy, Ryan?
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Comedy, long story short.
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I want the long story long.
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You want the long story long?
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I used to be a high school choir teacher.
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And when the pandemic happened,
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everything was shut down.
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So we had to do everything on Zoom.
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I couldn't get the high school choir teacher impression
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When the pandemic came...
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Yeah, when the pandemic came,
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I was a high school choir teacher.
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So we had to do everything on Zoom
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because everything was shut down.
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And so it just burnt me out
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because instead of conducting
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or actually being in the same room with people
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which is the most fun part about choir,
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I had to start making these things
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called virtual choir videos,
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which means I had maybe 150 students.
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They all record themselves and send in a clip.
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I edit all of that.
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And then they record themselves video.
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And then they send me that.
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And then I sync everything
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and I added cool editing features.
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So I was pretty much teaching eight hours a day.
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And then afterwards for 10 hours,
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I was just editing.
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And it just burnt me out.
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As opposed to when everything was face-to-face.
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Everything was face-to-face?
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After eight hours, you were done.
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But also when it was in person,
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it didn't even feel like work.
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Because I love doing it.
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I love being with those kids
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and making music with them.
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And it was just fun.
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But for two years, I couldn't do why.
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The thing that made me want to become a choir teacher
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just burnt me out.
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And during that time,
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I was doing a lot of acting classes
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and improv classes.
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And I really enjoyed it.
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And then I decided to try out a stand-up class.
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And I really enjoyed that.
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I took an online stand-up class at Second City.
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What was the first?
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That's a good question.
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I just kept doing it
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because I also do some acting.
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most of it is you're waiting
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or getting rejected.
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But stand-up, you can just do it anytime you want.
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in like five minutes,
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I can go to an open mic place
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and just do stand-up.
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So I loved how accessible and fast it was.
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So I just kept on doing it.
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And then I found some success.
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And that made me want to just do it
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a little bit more and more.
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Because it seems like I'm getting
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finding more success in that area.
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And so I'm just sticking in that lane.
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Let's start with improv.
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Why did you even think of taking improv classes?
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What was the challenge?
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What compelled you?
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Well, during that time,
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I also have like a little audio,
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like a recording studio at home.
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So I thought I'd try voice acting
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because I thought it might be a good side hustle.
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And then listening to like voice acting podcasts,
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they say you should take improv classes.
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Because it will help with like voices.
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What do you learn?
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You learn to listen.
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be in the moment,
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think on the spot.
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you can't be funny all the time.
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Sometimes it's not going to go well.
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And sometimes it's going to go amazing.
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it's always going to be hit or miss.
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It's never going to be like,
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if I do this and this,
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I'll always be funny.
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There's so many factors
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that play into like your partner,
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If you misheard your partner,
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if your partner misheard you.
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Do they incorporate the audience
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during improv classes?
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They don't tell you that
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you might be doing improv
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in front of an audience.
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You got to listen to them too.
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No, not too much.
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I mean, the audience will give a suggestion
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or something at the beginning.
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But not a lot of like,
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you don't really talk to the audience.
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At least not from what I,
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the classes I've taken.
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Now, stand-up comedy,
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what made you take that class
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aside from improv?
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I was getting bored of improv classes,
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but I still wanted to take a class
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because I was just at home
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So I just wanted to take classes
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so I'm not bored.
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why don't I try taking a stand-up class?
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What was your impression
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when you took a stand-up class?
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when they do stand-up
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for the first time,
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I was kind of doing stand-up
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You just didn't know it
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I just didn't know it
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because I was always
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trying to recruit people
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I was always put into positions
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where I had to go into
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a room full of strangers
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and pitch them something.
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Like for example,
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I was in charge of
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recruiting people
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for my choir program.
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So I would have to go to
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like these random college
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and try to convince them
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what I was gonna say
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but tried to make it
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as funny as possible
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which is pretty much stand-up.
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You're making people
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that you never met before
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So when I took a stand-up class,
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I've done this a lot.
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I just don't have to talk
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about choir anymore.
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stand-up comedy classes,
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I only took one class.
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Did they teach you
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So for that class,
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in a different style.
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we would write about like,
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three minutes of material
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that's observational humor.
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it might be like,
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or like storytelling.
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So that's what it was.
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You did stand-up class.
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You had them both.
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You're not doing choir.
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You're not teaching choir,
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high school choir.
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What compelled you
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to actually go in front
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when did you feel
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let me test drive this.
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my first open mic,
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my first couple open mics,
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it was all on Zoom
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because everything
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was still shut down.
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you don't know laughing really.
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the clapping emoji
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What compelled you
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I always like to do something.
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I always like to do something
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so I had nothing to do.
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I always found humor
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I think that's funny.
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I have a very self-deprecating
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it didn't bother me as much.
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I kind of enjoyed it
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Let's go back to choir,
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high school choir teacher.
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What was the dream?
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Was it really to be
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a high school choir teacher?
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The dream was to become
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a college choir professor
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but most college choir professors
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by teaching high school
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for a couple of years.
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So you really like singing?
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and I actually wanted
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I wanted to be a K-pop singer
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but I wasn't good enough
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to be a K-pop singer.
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I auditioned a lot,
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never got a call back.
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Wait, explain, explain.
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What contributes to being
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a good K-pop singer?
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is a little bit more important.
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That was a big problem.
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And I wasn't that good
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of a singer either.
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So if you're a bad dancer
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you have to be like
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Or you have to be like
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crazy good looking, you know.
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I am crazy good looking
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but I'm not a good dancer.
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I'm just a crazy bad dancer.
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So no K-pop there.
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But I thought maybe
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I could go to college
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maybe I'll still be
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audition later on.
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a community college
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a good high school.
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I went to a community college.
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Yeah, well my grades weren't that good
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to get into the schools
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I wanted to get into at the time.
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And in that community college
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it was a really good,
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they have a really good
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And that's when I
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I went to that community college
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Which community college?
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Mount San Antonio College
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They have a really good
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and slowly over the years
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this is pretty cool.
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And that's when I decided
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I think I would be happy
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being a college choir teacher.
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How's your patience?
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I think I'm a very patient
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But the school I was at,
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lovely kids for sure.
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is a disservice to them
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if you are patient.
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Because they don't respond
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So I would still respond
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even if I wasn't being
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patient with them.
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I couldn't control my anger
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this is how I know
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what will make them
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respond the best.
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That's what I know
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will motivate them the best.
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the school I went to
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It was a private Catholic school
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but there was a good mix
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and I liked that.
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I wasn't a rich kid.
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I was maybe lower
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I always responded
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better to teachers
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who were kind of like
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my natural personality
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with those students
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I quickly realized
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a little bit more
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or a little bit more intense
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or they will never listen to me.
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is the dream to become
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or are you still going back
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college professor
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is completely off the table
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because I have a lot of
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two masters for it.
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By the time I retired
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acting and stand-up
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I was going to be
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a college choir professor.
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there's still a chance
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Let's talk about choir.
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Do I like about it?
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Do you like or love?
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What challenges you
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being a choir professor
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want to be a choir teacher?
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my voice is baritone
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I really don't sing
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and it was a challenge
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to actually get me to
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and sing my part right.
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come to work everyday
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to actually do it
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especially if you have kids
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That's when I say
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I go to the principal
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I can't work here
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I can't teach Paco
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I want to be a choir
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the first concert I ever saw
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that's like their top group
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something like that
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from a performance
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I would feel very fulfilled
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that's kind of it
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to experience that
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for making people
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looking at the performance
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you were looking at the person
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responsible for delivering
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or for making that performance
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he's in charge of
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and making people
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you need work ethic
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really good choir director
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so I also like that too
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So when you told your parents
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when you told your parents
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you wanted to be a choir
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what did they say?
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they always told me
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so I was pretty lucky
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I had a lot of Asian friends
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I want to do something
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that's not a doctor
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and you get a big
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so you had none of those
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you have siblings?
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what they want to do also?
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you guys have the same parents
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and he's doing accounting now
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we had a bit of a
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my family had a bit of a setback
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for a couple years
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where money was very very tight
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so I was able to move out
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and go to college
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so I didn't have to
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I think deal with it as much
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he was still in high school
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so he had to stay
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in that environment
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so I think for him
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financial security
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that's a good perspective
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so he went that route
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and I understand it
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but he definitely
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my parents would've
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wouldn't have minded
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if he went the other way
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I think he kind of was
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he values financial security a lot
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because of that experience
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that you're trying to be
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are you trying to be an actor
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because you mentioned
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rejection and acting
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ooh the dating part
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how do you deal with all of those stuff
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I think I know that story
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I was paying attention
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out of a relationship
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she might listen to this
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you might have to edit that out
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no I'm just kidding
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but let's talk about acting
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okay let's talk about dating
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if we talk about acting
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we'll end up talking about dating
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if we talk about dating
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we'll end up talking about acting
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we could talk about both
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acting and dating
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what's the priority
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but right now acting
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if I was more successful
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it would be dating
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it just wouldn't make sense for me to
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especially if being an actor
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is already so hard
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you know you can't really
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prioritize anything else
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or it'll be more difficult
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is it really hard
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yeah oh yeah really hard
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can you explain the process
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like you can't just say
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are you part of the union
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part of the guild no
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when you say actor
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like what are the things
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you need to prepare for
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mentally physically
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honestly what I think
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and I might be wrong is
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a perseverance thing
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I think that if you're
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continuously pursuing it
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putting yourself out there
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and doing good work
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the chances of you succeeding
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is I think it's kind of
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I mean it might be one year
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it might be 20 years
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but it's bound to happen
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yeah I think if you're good
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and you keep pursuing it
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I think it's kind of
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like if someone's really good
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but he doesn't hustle
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he might get one edition a month
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and if someone else is
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50 editions a month
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it's a numbers thing you know
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auditions is not like
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really all your talent
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it's your personality
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it's how you vibe
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with that director
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that casting director
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there's so many factors
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where it's not just
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oh if you're good
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you're gonna be successful
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there's so many factors
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that it's almost like
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you have to also hustle
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I think hustle is actually
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a little bit more important
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you're doing the audition
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the audition itself
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I've gotten used to it
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especially because
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I've been auditioning
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since I was like in middle school
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because I was in choir
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how do you deal with
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the rejection though
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we'll talk about dating
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because there are people
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don't deal with rejection
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and then you wonder
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do you think really
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that you're gonna
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get it on the first try
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how do you deal with rejection
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I always hope for the best
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but prepare for the worst
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I already put myself
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if I don't get this
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that's gonna suck
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but I kinda prepare myself
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so I don't really have expectations
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like stoicism right
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like being a stoic
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the faster you realize
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it's not gonna be
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it's not gonna happen fast
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the easier it's gonna be
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so if you're thinking like
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oh I'm gonna become famous
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of course every rejection
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but if you're thinking
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this is probably gonna take a while
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so let's just try to have as much fun
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then it hurts a lot less
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and then there's the
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the rejection of the dating part
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which part of the
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and this I'm gonna
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I'm gonna ask you
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Filipinos who are new to the States
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the Philippine style of courtship
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in the Philippines
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is different from how
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arranged marriages?
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but in the Philippines
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they formalize the courtship
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getting the dates
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the hard part for me
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let's talk about that
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being the hard part for you
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when you go out dating
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and you said you're
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what do you tell the girls
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if they ask what you do?
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I'm an entrepreneur
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I tell them I'm a freelance
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I'm always honest
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I'm always honest and
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not because I can't be decisive
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but because I am just
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I think that laid back
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you're being indecisive right now
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I am a decisive person
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but when a girl says
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like what do you wanna eat?
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or when a girl says
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like what should we do?
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I'm fine with anything
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don't you realize that's your
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what do you wanna do?
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that's the problem
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but so my natural personality
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is just not what girls like
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I feel kind of like
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oh well I'm not being me
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what if in like 5 years
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I don't wanna be decisive
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and then she's like
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I just have a person
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when was the last time
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you were out on a date?
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let's go on a date
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let's go on a date
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well it's just a friend
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define that for me
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for people who don't understand
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the definition of dating
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and having a girlfriend
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what are the differences?
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that's such a good question
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I think it's just
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cause I know some people are like
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well if you're just hanging out
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and being friends
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that's the same as dating
25:15.0
if we're dating or not
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cause that's just
25:18.0
like when you say
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that means you're my girlfriend
25:21.0
I'm your boyfriend
25:26.0
we're figuring out
25:29.0
that's the audition
25:31.0
that's the audition
25:32.0
so it's kind of saying
25:33.0
like I'm not gonna talk
25:36.0
but we're not like
25:41.0
so that's purgatory
25:44.0
but that's the place
25:45.0
I can't even get to
25:47.0
I'm still in hell
25:48.0
so what do we call
25:53.0
and I've been in hell
25:54.0
for a very long time
25:56.0
so how can we get
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to purgatory then?
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you have to help me
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put it in the comments
26:07.0
and into purgatory
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you're not seeing anybody
26:13.0
she's not seeing anybody
26:15.0
but you guys are not
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and I know it sounds dumb
26:21.0
well actually here's why
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I like that clarity
26:28.0
when I like someone
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when like a relationship
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and when I'm heartbroken
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I don't wanna do anything
26:46.0
do you wanna just be friends?
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then I don't have to
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then I could prepare myself
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like okay I can't
26:53.0
I know I could like
26:54.0
dude that's the most
26:55.0
that's the most indecisive move
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that's why I'm trying to say
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that's my personality
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and girls don't like it
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why don't you just go in and commit?
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what do you mean?
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do you wanna be my girlfriend?
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but she doesn't wanna go on a date
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so she'll probably say no to
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being my girlfriend
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if she goes on a date with you
27:21.0
that's not dating yet
27:22.0
that's prospecting
27:26.0
I don't know anymore
27:28.0
do you think I should
27:30.0
so you think it might be better
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if we just hang out as friends
27:33.0
and then after a while
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let's just be a girlfriend
27:37.0
or the natural process would be
27:38.0
going out group dates
27:40.0
and then later on you find yourself
27:42.0
going out just one on one
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and then after that
27:46.0
you find yourself just
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that's what I should do
27:52.0
so is there any hope?
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right now with the girl
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that said no to me?
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you bring your friends
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but we don't have any mutual friends
28:04.0
create mutual friends
28:06.0
introduce your friends to her
28:08.0
she's an introvert
28:09.0
introduce your introvert friends to her
28:13.0
but what if they don't want to go out?
28:17.0
that's a good question though
28:18.0
she's an introvert
28:19.0
you're an extrovert
28:20.0
are you an extrovert?
28:21.0
I'm an introvert too
28:22.0
but I'm very good at being extroverted
28:24.0
oh you're ambivert
28:25.0
you're an ambivert
28:30.0
so she's an introvert
28:31.0
well I'll give you the full story now
28:34.0
without revealing her name
28:35.0
you know it's not just me right?
28:37.0
thousands of people watching you
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and if you tell her
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okay without telling her name
28:48.0
I asked her out on a date
28:51.0
she's emotionally unavailable
28:53.0
I completely respect that
28:57.0
that maybe we shouldn't
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why did you doctor fail her?
29:05.0
you just did a doctor fail on her
29:07.0
why did you diagnose?
29:09.0
you're not emotionally ready right?
29:10.0
maybe we shouldn't talk everyday
29:16.0
what if I like her?
29:17.0
and then that's gonna put her
29:18.0
in a more awkward situation
29:20.0
that's for her to decide
29:27.0
because if she doesn't wanna talk to you
29:28.0
she can say it herself
29:30.0
but you just gave her an out
00:00.0
30:07.000 --> 30:08.000
30:09.0
I told her I love talking to you
30:12.0
that's what you say
30:13.0
that's what I told her
30:15.0
what did she say?
30:16.0
but I said we shouldn't
30:18.0
that's so indecisive of you
30:24.0
what if I end up liking her more
30:28.0
that's for you to know
30:29.0
that those are your cards
30:30.0
you should be looking at that
30:31.0
they shouldn't be on the table
30:34.0
see that's my problem
30:36.0
I put everything on the table
30:38.0
as long as she doesn't see it
30:39.0
put them on the table
30:41.0
I already showed her all my cards
30:44.0
now start talking to her
30:45.0
there's nothing to lose right?
30:50.0
I talked to her again
30:51.0
for the first time
30:52.0
what did she say?
30:53.0
after waiting one day
30:54.0
that's a long time
31:04.0
I can talk to you everyday
31:06.0
and I already am talking to her again
31:07.0
and she talked to you
31:14.0
so but my problem is
31:18.0
because now I'm gonna treat her as a friend right?
31:21.0
well because she said
31:22.0
she's not ready for a
31:27.0
wouldn't that be me
31:28.0
making her feel uncomfortable?
31:30.0
because there's nothing you can do
31:31.0
that she wouldn't allow
31:37.0
so I'm making her
31:38.0
so I'm just kind of
31:40.0
you're creating a ghost
31:43.0
she's telling you she's not ready
31:49.0
because when she's ready
31:50.0
you want to be the person there
31:54.0
okay but here's my fear
32:00.0
so what if I'm there for her
32:04.0
I still don't like you
32:06.0
and I've been waiting for her
32:15.0
yeah because you know what?
32:16.0
she may not like you
32:18.0
she may not like you
32:19.0
because you're always there
32:21.0
and then you know what?
32:22.0
you know how women are right?
32:23.0
when you start liking someone else
32:25.0
that's when they go
32:27.0
but now you've invested a year
32:28.0
you know what a year can do?
32:29.0
I've invested a year
32:30.0
I've invested a year
32:31.0
you know what a year can do?
32:32.0
a year can show her
32:33.0
who you really are
32:34.0
a year can show you
32:35.0
who she really is
32:41.0
and she likes me less?
32:48.0
could've taken a month
32:50.0
it took her a year
32:56.0
I'm being too much of a nice guy
32:58.0
and nice guys finish what?
33:03.0
you gotta be abrasive
33:04.0
a little bit abrasive
33:08.0
that's what I'm saying
33:09.0
it's not my personality
33:11.0
it doesn't have to be
33:14.0
when I say being abrasive
33:15.0
like you're self-deprecating
33:17.0
being self-deprecating
33:19.0
because that means
33:20.0
you're putting your guard down
33:21.0
you don't need to
33:22.0
you don't need to impress
33:24.0
you're not impressing
33:25.0
but at the same time
33:26.0
what's killing you
33:27.0
is your indecisiveness
33:28.0
because you could be
33:31.0
you know we're going to In-N-Out
33:32.0
and you're ordering
33:33.0
I'm ordering number 2
33:37.0
and then you can't say
33:39.0
if the guy on the intercom says
33:43.0
yeah that's right
33:47.0
you can't say that
33:54.0
you should start calling her
33:57.0
you should start asking her out
34:00.0
like benign dates
34:01.0
like probably get a burger
34:03.0
don't say Netflix
34:07.0
wouldn't she say no?
34:09.0
that's her problem
34:10.0
why are you saying no for her?
34:13.0
she'll probably say no
34:15.0
then say what you want to do
34:18.0
she says I don't want to see you
34:24.0
and then she'll say
34:25.0
I don't want to see you tomorrow either
34:29.0
now we're getting somewhere right now
34:31.0
you should thank her
34:32.0
because she's not wasting your time
34:36.0
you want to get the no
34:38.0
you want to get all the no's out
34:40.0
because all no's lead to a yes
34:42.0
you don't want the fake yes
34:43.0
because the fake yes
34:44.0
will just force her into
34:46.0
and then once she's done with her no's
34:49.0
wow this guy is relentless
34:52.0
I said no so many times
34:55.0
and he's still here
34:58.0
she'll probably go out with you
34:59.0
because she's intrigued
35:03.0
she actually said
35:12.0
like pursuing a woman
35:16.0
like a wind blowing a tree
35:18.0
if it blows long enough
35:19.0
the tree will eventually fall down
35:24.0
well this is before
35:25.0
when we met on the first day
35:28.0
so you felt that you were the wind
35:29.0
or you were the tree?
35:37.0
dirt on the ground
35:39.0
because the tree needs dirt
35:44.0
but the wind is the boyfriend
35:49.0
where the dirt is
35:50.0
ready to catch her
35:53.0
change in perspective
36:03.0
why did I do that?
36:04.0
no what you did was good
36:07.0
yeah because you stumbled on yourself
36:08.0
now all you need to do is
36:10.0
knowing how you stumbled
36:11.0
and there's nothing more
36:14.0
because you already did
36:15.0
the stumbling part
36:20.0
actually what you did was good
36:23.0
took away all the
36:24.0
you addressed the elephant
36:26.0
and that's the hard part
36:28.0
do you not like me?
36:29.0
I'm not emotionally ready
36:36.0
I just keep talking to her
36:37.0
as if nothing happened
36:39.0
you didn't want to talk to me
36:41.0
I changed my mind
36:42.0
because I'm indecisive
36:51.0
that's where you use it
36:59.0
what do you think Nino?
37:01.0
what do you think guys?
37:02.0
put it in the comments below also
37:03.0
no but Ryan seriously
37:05.0
because you've got
37:06.0
a nice personality
37:08.0
you're self-deprecating
37:10.0
what's the opposite?
37:11.0
you're full of yourself
37:15.0
it's very disarming
37:20.0
let them shoot you in the foot
37:30.0
after hearing you explain it
37:35.0
I won't talk to you
37:37.0
because you were uncomfortable
37:39.0
sometimes silence is golden
37:42.0
like when you're on the phone together
37:43.0
put it in your head
37:44.0
he who talks first loses
37:51.0
I'm not emotionally ready
37:56.0
I'm not emotionally ready
38:07.0
not really that emotionally ready
38:13.0
I'm not emotionally ready
38:14.0
okay I won't talk to you everyday
38:31.0
I've made a huge mistake
38:34.0
do we even want this on the podcast?
38:38.0
because if you're gonna talk to her
38:39.0
and she's watching
38:42.0
well like you said Paco
38:45.0
I have nothing to lose
38:47.0
because I already lost
38:53.0
if you haven't really played the game?
38:58.0
that sounds even worse
39:02.0
you took yourself out right?
39:06.0
and then remember
39:07.0
half of something
39:08.0
is better than 100% of nothing
39:11.0
emotionally not ready?
39:13.0
you're not ready to give me the 100%
39:16.0
I'll just stay here
39:22.0
because you know what
39:24.0
until someone comes along
39:25.0
who's emotionally ready
39:27.0
hey girl you know what
39:28.0
she's 100% ready for me
39:30.0
I'll give you my 10
39:31.0
and I'll give her my 9
39:34.0
she'll wake up and go
39:38.0
oh now you have a good problem
39:39.0
should I go with her?
39:40.0
or should I go with this?
39:43.0
but always go for the
39:46.0
you can't give me 100%
39:49.0
happens in the grey
39:53.0
that's my problem
39:55.0
I want everything
39:56.0
to be black or white
39:57.0
but it can only be
40:09.0
and she'll be sitting
40:11.0
maybe in 6 months
40:13.0
or maybe we should do
40:15.0
maybe we should do this
40:17.0
to see where Ryan is at
40:28.0
maybe we should do this
40:30.0
would want to see
40:31.0
where is Ryan Ku now
40:33.0
that's a good point
40:37.0
their piece of advice
40:42.0
we're on to something
40:48.0
I haven't seen that
40:49.0
is it a dating movie
40:50.0
was it a dating movie
41:10.0
but this should be
41:13.0
we're taping this
41:15.0
we'll air it probably
41:18.0
you have to come back
41:19.0
then we have to do it again
41:20.0
that's a good point
41:25.0
to see what happens
41:30.0
you're gonna have me
41:34.0
around for that long
41:35.0
it might take 10 years
41:45.0
watching your episodes
41:49.0
and she'll be like
41:51.0
to give him a chance
42:06.0
I was just being too nice
42:08.0
or maybe pretending
42:19.0
thanks for having me
42:27.0
that acting and dating
42:29.0
acting and dating
42:30.0
like the rejection
42:35.0
acting and dating
42:39.0
acting is kind of like
42:41.0
the first states of dating
42:44.0
as soon as you walk into that room
42:46.0
first impressions
42:51.0
keep the conversation going
42:57.0
I think that's about it
43:00.0
acting I don't overthink
43:02.0
dating I overthink a lot
43:03.0
maybe you should turn it around
43:07.0
maybe you should overthink acting
43:08.0
and put some subtext
43:14.0
that might actually help
43:15.0
and not think about dating
43:17.0
you can't lose what you don't have
43:22.0
I don't know why I said that
43:24.0
I really don't know
43:29.0
I think even she was like
43:34.0
oh shoot why did I even say that
43:36.0
diagnosing me with
43:37.0
I won't talk to you that much
43:42.0
but you can change it
43:48.0
do you know anyone
43:49.0
who got out of this
43:52.0
you forget about yesterday
43:55.0
let your tomorrow be today
43:57.0
I think that was my conversation
44:01.0
it's tomorrow today
44:04.0
everyday you're given
44:05.0
an opportunity to change
44:06.0
the rest of your life
44:09.0
after the podcast
44:14.0
I am gonna keep talking
44:17.0
and I'll keep you updated
44:22.0
I'll let you know
44:24.0
oh no I'll be around March 1
44:27.0
I mean make it fun
44:31.0
your dating activities
44:33.0
there will come a time
44:34.0
you may want to date
44:35.0
it would not be possible anymore
44:37.0
so enjoy your dating
44:39.0
your dating years
44:48.0
if I end up marrying this girl
44:50.0
you can be my best man
44:54.0
Nina and I will be there
44:55.0
you can play the drums
44:56.0
and Jules will sing
44:57.0
yeah we'll do that
45:00.0
before we land this
45:01.0
thank you for being so candid
45:05.0
are you happy where you are
45:12.0
because you're making people laugh
45:14.0
that's why I have to ask you
45:15.0
I'm making people laugh
45:18.0
yeah I can't complain
45:19.0
I have a roof over my head
45:21.0
food on the table
45:24.0
that makes me happy
45:26.0
I mean if I had a girlfriend
45:27.0
it would be better
45:36.0
I would be more grateful
45:37.0
if I had a girlfriend
45:40.0
ladies and gentlemen
45:42.0
let's get Ryan to a girlfriend
45:50.0
Ryan will be back
