Do LGBTQ+ Couples Feel Like They’re Hidden From The Public? | Filipino | Rec•Create
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My name is RJ Puod.
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And I'm Joey Cortina.
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Hi, my name is Jay Kim.
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Hi, my name is Lex.
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I'm Mikayla Javier.
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I'm Neil Beatriz.
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And I identify myself as bisexual.
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I identify myself as gay.
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Non-binary pansexual.
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I'm bisexual but I lean towards girls.
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LGBTQ couples find it difficult to get close in public.
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Ako kasi personally, wala akong pakialam sa mga nasa paligid namin.
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Mapapansin namin yan na a lot of people will titingnan kami, ganon.
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Pero ako hindi ako nahihiya kasi sobrang confident ako sa sarili ko.
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And comfortable ako nakasama siya.
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Kami, we're lucky.
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Since heteronormative kami, we don't get the stares.
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We understand that kami kasi, we have cis privilege.
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Kasi when you look at us, parang wala namang ano, wala namang MF.
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When you're in a same-sex relationship kasi, you get the judgmental stares from the public.
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Nasanay kasi kami nang we touch, like hold hands, ganyan.
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But minsan babother ako pag may nakatingin.
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I think if we hold hands sometimes, napagkakamal na kami BFFs lang.
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They look at us and they're wondering like,
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magkatropa lang ba tong dalawang to?
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Or like, may something.
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Naiisip nila, oh babae sa babae, goods yan.
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Tapos parang they will just come to us.
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In the movie theaters lang kami nakapag-holding hands because it's dark.
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Tapos ang hawak-hawakan lang is tropa-like yung nakahawak sa ganon.
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I remember we had this one unfortunate incident when we were riding a cab.
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We were very much intimate inside the cab.
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And the driver talaga explicitly told us na,
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kung babasin niyo tong sasakyan ko, lumabas na lang kayo.
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And we were shocked because that was the first time that that ever happened to us.
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Kahit wala naman silang outright na ginagawa para saktan kami,
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parang nandun yung sense ko na, you know, looking after my shoulder.
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Naging cause siya of friction for us early on
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kasi I was more open to holding hands and stuff like that.
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Tapos parang, like in a selfish way, it felt like I was being shoved back in the closet.
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Guru deep-seated.
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Na hindi pa ko out for a few years before.
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Hirap pa ko na maging close in public.
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And the fact that I had to go back in with her kasi nga natatakot pa siya.
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I was the first girl that she dated.
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Hindi ko rin siya pin-reassure na mag-show ng affection sa akin publicly.
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I think that it comes naturally na lang.
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Mas nag-ievolve na lang yung pagpapakita namin ng love sa isa't isa.
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The LGBTQ plus are easily accepted when they come out.
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Kasi ako, I did not have a coming out story
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kasi my parents are really cool.
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Very lucky because my parents are very accepting.
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Hindi nila ako kinahiya as gay ako.
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Medyo ano yun, medyo parang ang weird kasi having been raised like that
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I thought na it's like that for all.
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Kapag nag-come out ka kasi, there's this judgment pa rin.
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Pag sinasabi ko sa kanila na I'm non-binary, nagugulat sila na
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it's like I have to prove myself na kailangan ko pang humalik ng lalaki
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para lang sabihin sa iyong non-binary ako.
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Ako nag-come out ako nung naging kami na kasi nga sinasabi niya sa akin
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na kailangan ka pa magiging ready.
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When I was a kid kasi, pag napapanood namin si Jake Cyrus
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talagang sasabihin ng mama ko na
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oh wag kang gagaya dyan or kaya ay sasigera.
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Di ba ganun yung mga na na-
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Mapupunta ka sa Ipiang.
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Mapupunta ka sa Ipiang, like legit.
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So ako parang, kinonvince ko pa yung sarili ko noon na
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eh baka yung not lesbian, baka naman it's just a phase.
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Pero before, you don't get to dress that way.
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I can't dress kasi oo.
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Parang most of my youth was about me hiding talaga.
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Tananggap ko na talaga na parang like
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maybe I'm going to have to hide this for the rest of my life.
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It's a maybe pa rin.
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Oo, it's a maybe.
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It's better now compared to say 20 or 30 years ago.
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I think ha, when you come out like with people na friends mo
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it's very accepting.
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Pero pag family, hindi naman parang totally accepting
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pero kasi because you know, ikaw yan, they love you.
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Parang it's more of, ano lang sila, parang compliance.
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I'm glad to say that my mom was really supportive.
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Sinamahan niya pa ako doon sa surgery ka when I had my top surgery.
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With my family, they started transitioning with me.
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They started switching from calling me ate
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and then it was a process for my mom.
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They had to call me teya.
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As a sign of transitioning, they couldn't say kuya right away.
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So it was in between, teya.
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Pero ngayon naman, super accepting ng parents and family.
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So I think the more may alam sila about it,
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the more na mas maintindihan nila.
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LGBTQ plus couples are treated the same as straight couples?
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No, no, no, not yet.
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Tatawa na lang ako.
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For example, sa insurance.
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I can't even put her on my beneficiary, I had to put my mom.
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If we decide to, you know, have a family,
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ang daming talon yung kailangan.
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Parang hindi ka tulad sa cis, het couples na
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napaka-supportive ng institution sa kanila.
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Na hindi nila kailangang diskartehan.
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Say for example, if we get married abroad,
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it will not be recognized by the government here.
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So parang wala talaga siyang masyadong bigat.
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The fact that our wedding isn't legal
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is what here in the Philippines is also.
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Besties pa rin tayo dito.
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Pag member ka ng LGBTQ ay
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sobrang daming stigma na nakadikit sa'yo.
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Sa teleseries nga, and then sa mga movies natin.
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Kapag yung tao, yung regular couple,
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kikiligin sila agad, gano'n.
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Pero pag LGBT couple, parang nakikringe sila.
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Siyempre meron pa rin mga cultural paradigm differences.
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Like, if you're gay, you're expected to look a certain way.
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You're supposed to act a certain way as a couple.
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If you have someone who's queer,
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parang yung mindset agad is baka mahawa ako nito.
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It's just the same.
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Parang we're not really here to convert anyone.
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We're not really here to parang influence anyone na
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okay, you convert to being gay.
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Wala siyang gano'n. Wala kaming gano'ng anything.
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Straight couples can understand us a bit more
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when they realize we're not that different.
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All we're trying to do is fall in love, stay in love,
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have the same rights.
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Kahit civil wed...
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Sige, kahit civil wedding na lang.
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Yun na lang ibigay niyo sa'kin.
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Again, we just want to be treated like normal people.
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Is the Philippines ready for queer relationships?
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That's such a complex question.
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Yeah, 50-50 din eh.
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Leaning sa no, pero maybe.
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It's ready in the sense na
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if they are willing to finally embrace themselves in that way.
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There are people for them.
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There is a community for it.
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No, in the sense na if they do it, hindi siya madali.
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LGBTQIA plus community in the Philippines
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are just tolerated.
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Hindi pa talaga tayo fully accepted.
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A lot of people would say natanggap nila,
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but they would say na,
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don't be too gay or
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I accept you, pero don't behave a certain way pa rin.
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Kasi it's making...
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Hindi sabi ka naman.
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Correct. It's making me uncomfortable.
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Or even in bading yan, for example,
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pero mabait naman yan.
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So, in order for you to be accepted by the society,
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you have to prove yourself.
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The Philippines, as progressive as we try to be,
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still has a lot of growing up to do.
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And there's so much representation now,
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I mean, we can still do better,
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but it's there and we are progressing.
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That gives queer people more opportunities
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to represent themselves.
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To see nga na parang,
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oye, pwede pala itong mangyayari sa akin.
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Different types of LGBT relationships lang
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na parang hindi parang kit-both.
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Gay is parang comedy-comedy na agad lahat.
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There are some older people who are saying na,
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bakit dumadami ang bakla sa Pilipinas?
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Or bakit ang daming bakla sa mga kabataan?
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It's not like a phenomenon or something.
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Di siya uprising.
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I think what's happening is,
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change the action siya.
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Someone has the courage to come out
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and nakikita nung other people na parang,
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oh, sinusupport nila siya.
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That's the importance of representation.
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We're slowly turning into ano,
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into a progressive country.
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we still have a long way.
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Medyo mahirap pa.
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I think we have so much pa na
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Siguro kasi this generation is much more open na.
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Much more, yun nga, woke generation na.
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siguro the younger ones,
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the next generations,
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baka mas sila pa yung parang,
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I still want to be hopeful na
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kayang i-accept ng tao.
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For me, that is like a big,
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the dream of any community.
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Hindi mo na kailangan,
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Like, I'm just friends.
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And I'm a human being.
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what does it mean to be free to love?
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express who you really are.
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Siguro feeling safe.
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Feeling safe in general.
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Pag free to love ka,
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you don't have to explain why,
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I want to be able to bring him home to,
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ano, to my family and be like,
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have it be like the most normal thing na parang,
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Nice to meet you.
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Blah, blah, blah.
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So I would like to have a love that
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and not just like shun
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because people are not yet ready for it.
