Is Love Enough to be Happy in a Relationship? | Filipino | Rec•Create
00:21.0
Ano yung skins ba?
00:22.0
So yung skins, pampaganda lang yun ng itsura mo para mas swabby yung experience mo.
00:27.0
For example, ito sa Valorant, ito RGX.
00:31.0
Ito yung River Phase 1.
00:33.0
Uy, alam mo, Rod, okay ito ha.
00:35.0
Kasi yung anak ko, parang nahihiya siya sakin sometimes to show me yung mga ginagawa niya sa games.
00:40.0
Parang ngayon, mas nag-gets ko na ito yung through games,
00:43.0
yun pala yung parang it helps her express yung personality niya and yung style niya.
00:47.0
Saktong-saktong! Kasi nalaman ko lang din na pwede na gamitin ng anak mo ang Gcash Junior!
00:57.0
Gcash na tinagdagan ng Junior!
00:59.0
So, please enlighten me. I wanna know.
01:01.0
So, ang Gcash Junior, sa isang simpleng pag-download na ang pwede na gamitin ng teens
01:05.0
ang almighty Gcash for their purchasing and saving purposes.
01:10.0
Sobrang lawak na kasi ng interest ng teens ngayon, ma, paano pa yan?
01:13.0
School, or Fresh Fits, or merch, or games, o kahit talaga!
01:18.0
And here's the beautiful thing, diba?
01:20.0
Ngayong may access na sila sa Gcash, they could attain, gusto mo hulaan?
01:24.0
Financial responsibility!
01:26.0
Even at the young age of 13 years old!
01:28.0
Ano nang gusto natin?
01:29.0
And here's the best part pa, ang pinakamalupit na thing about Gcash Junior ay
01:34.0
magpapakita lang sila ng school ID.
01:36.0
School ID lang! Pwede na sila, kaya kung nariyan, bibili sila ng skin,
01:40.0
pwede na nilang ma-set up yung Gcash.
01:42.0
Ready, set, see! I'll teach you how to play Valorant 8! Let's go!
01:46.0
Ako naman, patry ako! Ang galing!
01:49.0
Uy, Rod, binaberel nila ako!
01:51.0
Wait lang! Paano to'ng pagalawin? Hindi to'ng gumagalaw!
01:56.0
Before I was in that situation, I gave up my work in Singapore.
02:01.0
Mahal ako parang dating lang. Wala eh, bobo.
02:04.0
Eh di, sige, Singapore lang eh, to the time.
02:07.0
Wala rin. After two months, wala.
02:10.0
Do you think love is enough in a relationship?
02:16.0
Love is not enough in a relationship.
02:18.0
Siguro yung panahon ng dati.
02:20.0
Like, nasa telenovela times, kung paano nariyong pangako sa'yo.
02:23.0
Sa panahon kasi ngayon, hindi niya eh. Kasi kailangan mo rin magiging practical at the same time.
02:27.0
Yung love kasi feeling lang yun eh. Diba? Ang feeling lang yun.
02:30.0
Yung feeling lang yun.
02:31.0
Yung feeling lang yun.
02:32.0
Yung feeling lang yun.
02:33.0
Yung feeling lang yun.
02:34.0
Yung feeling lang yun.
02:35.0
Yung feeling lang yun.
02:36.0
Yung feeling lang yun.
02:37.0
Yung love kasi feeling lang yun eh. Diba? Ang feelings, nawawala.
02:40.0
Yung love kasi feeling lang yun eh. Diba? Ang feelings, nawawala.
02:41.0
So parang ngayon, it's more on rationality than just love. So you have to be looking out for yourself as well.
02:48.0
Na kailangan buo yung loob mo, buo yung utak mo before you say this is love already.
02:53.0
Kasi if you go into think, yung mga mistakes sa ibang tao, puro puso lang lagi.
02:58.0
Someone could tell you that they love you and that doesn't automatically mean that they're willing to adjust for you.
03:03.0
That doesn't automatically mean that they're willing to compromise for you.
03:07.0
Pero hindi lang naman siya about feelings. Kasi parang dapat you know how to make sacrifices din.
03:11.0
There are times na nagkakamali siya and sobrang done ka na sa kanya.
03:15.0
Pero kasi iisipin mo pa din yung lalim ng pinagsamahan niyo.
03:19.0
You can actually grow together kahit dumaan kayo sa toxic phase.
03:24.0
For me kasi love is the greatest thing that you can offer, you can give to someone.
03:29.0
You cannot be faithful without love. You cannot be giving without love.
03:33.0
You cannot be loyal without love. So love is enough. Kasi general na lang dyan siya sa lahat ng bagay.
03:39.0
But I think love should be a choice.
03:43.0
The best example is our parents. Kasi nawawala kasi yung love sa parents sometimes.
03:49.0
Before, kringi sila. Before dating, may sex na part, nahuli ko na kay parents ko eh.
03:55.0
Pero pag tumatanda, nawawala eh. Choice na lang nila to stay for the sake of them.
04:00.0
Some of them children and then some of them para friendship na lang eh, companionship.
04:04.0
Real love is something that doesn't feel like a chore.
04:08.0
When a person that you love feels like they're sad or is going through something,
04:14.0
it doesn't feel like it's trouble for you to help them.
04:17.0
And kaya mong ipakita lahat, triggers or your traumas and everything.
04:22.0
And kapag may problem siya, it's not a his or her situation. It's a we situation.
04:27.0
Like, it's our problem now.
04:29.0
You don't feel na parang you're walking on eggshells every time you're with that person.
04:33.0
Then I guess that's love.
04:35.0
I am willing to compromise in a relationship for the sake of love.
04:39.0
Um, who? That's very hard to answer. Kasi marupok din ako. I don't know.
04:44.0
Yes, I am. I'm willing.
04:50.0
Wala naman two people na same na same, diba?
04:53.0
So talagang may difference yan.
04:55.0
And may times na need mo talaga mag-compromise.
04:58.0
And kailangan nyo mag-meet halfway.
05:00.0
Maybe, um, with boundaries.
05:03.0
I am willing to compromise for love, of course.
05:06.0
As long as it's reasonable and as long as it's in my control.
05:10.0
And as long as it will make my partner happy.
05:13.0
Ganun naman talaga, I think.
05:14.0
Parang if your partner finds it uncomfortable for you to do this, then okay.
05:19.0
Parang hindi natin gagawin yan since you're not comfortable with it.
05:21.0
So you have to compromise if you want your partner to feel safe, to feel secured.
05:26.0
You have to think na, pag ginawa ko ba to, makakabuti ba to sa akin?
05:31.0
O makakabuti lang sa kanya? O makakabuti sa aming pareha?
05:34.0
Ako naman as a partner, I'd also want someone to compromise for me.
05:38.0
So I think it's a give and take situation.
05:40.0
So, yun. I think yes, with boundaries.
05:43.0
Ano yung, ano mo? Ano yung line mo? Where do you come from?
05:46.0
And it's like jeopardizing your dreams and your personal goals na you lose yourself.
05:52.0
Before I was in that situation, I gave up my work in Singapore.
05:57.0
Nag-apply ako ng teacher doon. Tanggap ako.
06:00.0
Pero yung natanggap ako, parang ito yung pala yung term nakapalit na,
06:03.0
ay, yung okay pala kami.
06:05.0
Nakala ko parang dating lang.
06:07.0
Tapos, parang lumalalim na.
06:09.0
Eh syempre, may trabaho ko sa Singapore.
06:12.0
Tapos, meron ka na dito.
06:14.0
Hindi ko mo pwedeng kukunin ko ito, iiwang ko ito.
06:18.0
Eh di, sige. Singapore lang eh. To the time.
06:20.0
Wala rin. After two months, wala.
06:23.0
Siguro, I can compromise as long as hindi ko na binago yung buong pagkatao ko.
06:28.0
Kahit alam kong hindi naman ako gumagawa na anything wrong.
06:32.0
Kasi parang, ibig sabihin, you're not in love with me.
06:34.0
You're in love with the ideal version of me.
06:37.0
Hindi kita kayang lokohin na ito ako.
06:39.0
Kasi ito naman ako talaga noong nakilala mo ko.
06:41.0
So, siguro doon ako mag-stop.
06:43.0
Pero, kapag kasi gusto mo yung tao,
06:45.0
tapos tingin mo mabuti naman yung kahihinat ng sitwasyon,
06:48.0
hindi mo na mamalayo sa sarili mo na nakakapag-compromise ka.
06:52.0
Yes or no, can you be in love but not be happy?
06:58.0
Yes, it's possible.
07:01.0
In love but not be happy.
07:03.0
I think magkakambal yun eh.
07:04.0
Hindi pwedeng in love ka, tapos malungkot ka.
07:08.0
Wala pa akong nai-encounter.
07:10.0
Kapag in love ka, makikita mo yung sarili mo na you are doing productively,
07:15.0
makikita mo yung sarili mo na nag-smile ka,
07:17.0
or nakikita mo yung sarili mo na parang inspired ka lagi.
07:21.0
So, how can you associate those feelings sa sadness?
07:24.0
You can be in love and not be happy.
07:26.0
What if, kung arin, nagkasakit yung mahal mo,
07:29.0
eh di alagaan mo siya pero hindi ka naman happy kasi, di ba?
07:33.0
Kasi may nangyaring masama.
07:35.0
Pero kapag dumating yung hardship sa mga couple,
07:38.0
feeling nila, ay, may times na ayoko na sa kanya.
07:41.0
Especially sa mga nag-live-in partner.
07:43.0
Kasi nakikita nila yung,
07:44.0
ay, ganito pala feeling na meron ka ng kasama sa loob ng bahay.
07:48.0
Hindi yung katulad dati pag hindi kayo live-in,
07:50.0
makikita mo yung good side lang niya.
07:52.0
It's very possible to love someone even though they're mistreating you.
07:55.0
Meron parang, what do you call this?
07:57.0
Like, it's a trauma bond.
07:59.0
Nabibate ka na parang nag-aaway kayo
08:01.0
and then you're waiting for this person na like, suyuin ka.
08:04.0
So, like, dun ka na-attach.
08:05.0
Pwede siyang mag-resolve ng mas malaking damage.
08:08.0
Hindi lang yung relationship mo mas isira but also yourself.
08:11.0
Parang it makes you more miserable na you're,
08:13.0
you have something but not really.
08:15.0
So, parang you'd rather be just single if that's the case.
08:19.0
Yes or no, is love easy?
08:22.0
Love itself is easy.
08:24.0
Tayong mga tao lang gumagawa ng paraan para maging komplikado ito.
08:27.0
Love is supposed to be easy.
08:29.0
It's supposed to be that warm feeling.
08:31.0
It's like you're flying, you're floating.
08:33.0
Actually, siya pa nga yung nagpapadali ng buhay ng tao.
08:36.0
Siya pa nga yung nagpapagaan ng feelings ng tao.
08:38.0
Kasi pag mahal mo yung tao, madali lang mag-sacrifice.
08:42.0
Madali lang mag-compromise.
08:44.0
Hindi love yung mahirap.
08:46.0
Yung attitude mo, yung kung papaano mo siya i-treat
08:49.0
or kung papaano mo siya gawin, yun yung mahirap.
08:54.0
Love is not easy.
08:55.0
Ayaw mo maging biblical.
08:56.0
Kasi siya pag sinasabi niya sa love is very easy sometimes.
09:00.0
Yes, I know that, pero in the setting practical sa mundong ito,
09:05.0
Parang if you want to be in love,
09:07.0
if you want to be in a relationship,
09:09.0
you have to know na it's risky
09:11.0
kasi no matter how much feelings and trust
09:14.0
and time you invest dito sa person na ito,
09:16.0
wala kang 100% assurance na he'll stay.
09:19.0
Yung mga choices misan, iba-iba kasi kayo nang gusto.
09:22.0
Meron kang decision na gusto mo ganito, ayaw rin niya yung ganito.
09:26.0
So paano kayo mag-mimic halfway
09:28.0
kung iba yung mindset niyo at the same time.
09:30.0
It's difficult for some people,
09:32.0
especially if you're going through something like mentally.
09:35.0
There are days that's very difficult for me
09:37.0
na I try to find in my partner.
09:39.0
And there are days na I realize na
09:41.0
I shouldn't depend on my partner so much
09:43.0
because it's something that I have to work on myself.
09:45.0
Hindi naman lahat ng tao is willing to give in.
09:48.0
Yung iba naman yung mataasang pride.
09:50.0
Yung iba naman sobrang mapagkumbaba.
09:52.0
You have to be ready na, oh, this will hurt.
09:55.0
Hindi lang ito parang, ah, mag-date kami. Cute pictures and all.
09:58.0
So ang hirap i-weigh kung paano kayo magtutugma sometimes.
10:02.0
Nag-figures din ang problem sometimes sa mga ganung decision.
10:05.0
True love is when you can make anything work.
10:09.0
Yes. Yes. At least sa akin, yes.
10:11.0
I believe that to be true.
10:16.0
May true love ba?
10:17.0
Well, I believe that anything is possible with love.
10:21.0
Kahit na maraming challenges, maraming problems,
10:24.0
malalagpasan niyo yung challenges together.
10:26.0
Kasi nga, true love.
10:27.0
See, for example, hindi lang siya applicable sa relationship kahit sa trabaho.
10:31.0
Kung hindi mo mahal o hindi ka passionate sa ginagawa mo,
10:34.0
I don't think magiging productive ka eh.
10:36.0
In the long run, baka nga, ma-burnout ka pa.
10:38.0
Worst case, baka supoan mo.
10:40.0
So, if you and your partner both know sa isa't isa
10:43.0
na gusto niya talaga mag-end up together,
10:45.0
you'll do anything para lang masave yung relationship.
10:48.0
Especially kapag nagkita na nila na mag-peak na yung away
10:50.0
or like yung situation.
10:51.0
Parang, oh, let's take a break na this is what we have to do.
10:54.0
I see now we're heading into the wrong direction.
10:56.0
So, we have to take a breather.
10:58.0
No offense, pero hindi ako naniniwala sa mga couples na
11:01.0
mahal nila isa't isa pero naghiwalay sila
11:03.0
kasi it's not healthy anymore or like pagod na sila.
11:06.0
If you feel like loving someone is difficult or it's not enough,
11:09.0
then it probably wasn't love at all.
11:11.0
If pagod ka, then magpahinga ka.
11:13.0
Pero huwag mong iiwan yung tao kasi ending a relationship,
11:16.0
it's a huge movement.
11:18.0
Another experience ko kasi feeling ko,
11:20.0
feeling ko lang ah, feeling ko true love yun.
11:23.0
Ginawa ka naman yung lahat ng best ko,
11:25.0
pero hindi kayo naging kami.
11:27.0
Kasi may mga scenario sa buhay mo na ginawa mo na yung lahat,
11:31.0
pero hindi kayo nag-end up sa huli.
11:34.0
Ang good side naman yung true love na yun,
11:36.0
mas minahal mo yung sarili mo.
11:38.0
So, I feel like with compromise and like kung love mo talaga yung person,
11:43.0
you're willing to do whatever it takes to make it work
11:46.0
as long as it's not hurting the both of you.
11:48.0
Ano nga ba yung ideal relationship?
11:51.0
What is my ideal relationship?
11:53.0
Alam ko di yung boyfriend ko baka sabihin niya ko.
11:55.0
Ano ba ba yung ideal relationship?
11:57.0
Ako, I really don't have an ideal relationship.
12:01.0
I have standards.
12:02.0
Natakot kasi ako dun sa concept na
12:04.0
meron akong tinitingalang relationship or type ng relationship.
12:08.0
Then mamaya iba to sakin, hindi ganun.
12:10.0
Natatakot akong ma-disappoint.
12:12.0
I think ideal relationship ko is
12:14.0
yung may fine line between being like magtropa,
12:17.0
tapos may mga moments na feel niyo talaga na magdowa kayo.
12:21.0
Someone na magiging comfortable ako kasama,
12:24.0
na I can be myself, and accepted niya kung sino ako.
12:28.0
From my experience, hindi laging ako na lang.
12:31.0
Ako yung nag-adjust, ako yung pupunta dito.
12:33.0
Ako yung magsusurprise.
12:35.0
Ako yung kailangan mag-iisip.
12:37.0
Kasi two-way talaga reciprocal eh.
12:39.0
Ang hirap ng laging ikaw eh.
12:41.0
So ako, go with the flow lang.
12:43.0
As long as I'm being me,
12:44.0
I think ma-attract naman ang universe ko na
12:47.0
sige, ibibigay ko sa'yo ganito kasi ganyan ka.
12:49.0
My ideal relationship I think is someone na parang
12:52.0
is happy to see me all the time.
12:54.0
We understand that there are instances where we really get bored
12:58.0
but we're not tired of each other.
12:59.0
For me, yung ideal relationship is
13:01.0
when you both willing to fight.
13:04.0
Or parang no matter how hard the situation gets,
13:07.0
you still choose this person.
13:09.0
And I would love a relationship na parang
13:12.0
you grow together, you plant things together,
13:14.0
ini-include ganyan sa lahat ng bagay
13:16.0
even if it's just one person's dream.
13:18.0
Yung may matutunan ako from that person
13:21.0
na maggagayad sa akin
13:23.0
and will help me become the best version of myself.
13:27.0
Parang kung baga you feel like he is your home,
13:30.0
sino bang may gustong umalis dun
13:32.0
if you think he's his home?
13:34.0
Parang the certainty na it's a ride or die
13:37.0
na ito na talaga yun.
13:38.0
So I feel like that's what it is for me.
