Real Couples Tell Us The Reality of Living Together | Filipino | Rec•Create
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developing yung sarili ko.
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Munso kasi ako sa bahay.
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Princess lang, pinagsisilbihan.
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May mommy, may daddy, may kapatid.
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Ang damit ko, may tagalaba.
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Yung routine ko, it's just really
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going out with friends, working.
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Walang problema, sarili ko lang lagi.
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Pasok, trabaho, kain.
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May responsibility at home.
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Before Lyle, kasi breadwinner ako.
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The bills, syempre chores.
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Mga ginagawa ng kuya sa bahay.
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Separated ako from my parents.
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Independent ako since 2017, I think.
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So I was comfortable being alone and being independent
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Gusto ko kasi siya makita araw-araw.
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It so happened na may nahanap kami na place.
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Starting from scratch without any other responsibilities.
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Yung responsibility namin, isa aming dalawa lang.
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But when I started to live with my partner,
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dun ko na naramdaman yung struggle nung una.
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Well, kasi syempre, one year pa lang after the relationship,
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nag-move in kami together.
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Pinakamahirap, yung mga ugali niya na hindi ko pa nakita before kami nag-move in.
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Nagulat ako na sobrang addict niya sa lotion.
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Hindi siya makakatulog nang walang lotion.
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Ewan ko, sakit ko na ata talaga siya.
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One time, umiyak siya kasi talagang hindi siya magpakalayin, pala ubus na.
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Babe, mahanap mo akong lotion, tapos pupunta kami ng 7-Eleven para lang bumili ng lotion.
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Lagi ko sinasabi naman sa kanya.
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Ang gagawin niya, hindi siya magpakalayin.
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So, ako yung mabilis kasi kumilos sa lahat, maski sa bahay.
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Si Leo kasi ano siya eh, um, Disney Princess.
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Alo, mag-aaway after nito.
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I like to have a system for how I clean, where I put stuff.
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He would deny this, I think, pero para kasi siyang ahas.
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So kung saan siya maghubad ng damit, doon niya nalang ilalagay.
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And I want, pag nag-utos ako, gusto ko gagawin agad.
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Pag di niya nagawa ko na, in the middle of the game,
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syempre, hindi naman ma-post yun agad-agad.
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Tinuro ko siya kay Jules.
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Yung rotation ng paggamit ng damit.
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Kumuari, ginamit mo na ito, tapos sa baba dapat siya.
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I'd like to think I'm very organized.
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Minsan po eh, parang too organized.
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Ngayon, hanggang ngayon naman, naglo-learn ako.
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Mamahalin mo naman yung tao, not just the good side eh.
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Dapat pati yung bad side eh.
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When you live together with someone, kita mo talaga warts and all.
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Buong pagkataon nila, essentially.
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Pinag-uusapan namin na ayaw ko yung ganito, ayaw niya rin yung ganyan sa amin.
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Ayaw niya rin yung ganyan sa akin.
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And then, mag-meet halfway kami.
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Siguro, biggest factor in our relationship ngayon,
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siguro, finances.
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Yun nga, magkaiba yung buhay namin.
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So ngayon ko palang na-enjoy yung makagastos for myself.
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i-ano yung happiness namin o yung relasyon namin tungkol sa pera.
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Pero kasi dahil yun nga, magkasama kami, kami na yung nagmamanage ng lahat.
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Kailangan pag-usapan.
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Tapos nun, ako yung type of person na,
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deserve ko to, deserve ko yan, ganun.
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Yun yung pinakang naging struggle namin nung nagsistart kami.
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Sobrang gastos ko kasi.
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Tapos si Harley kasi, medyo type A kasi siya.
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Meron siyang listahan.
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So meron kami yung budget plan ngayon na sinusunod.
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So gumagawa ko ng excel file sa mga pera namin, sa gastusin namin.
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And I would just pay.
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Ang hirap eh, kailangan...
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It's a both yes from me and from her.
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For example, may in-accept ako na hindi niya alam,
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or nag-decide ako.
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May pinila ako na hindi niya alam.
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For sure, mag-aaway kami.
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Kasi, we have plans for the future.
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We have plans on next month, next week.
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Okay, for biglaang sabay-sabay na gastos.
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Actually, nangyari lang yan recently.
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Ang laki ng electricity bill kasi nga mainit.
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Tapos may parating pa kaming pusa.
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Plus shucks, nagkasabay-sabay siya.
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One time, masira yung aircon namin.
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Nag-load kami for an aircon.
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Para yung convenience din namin.
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Kasi yun yung sa panahon nyo, sobrang init talaga.
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So, it really depends on the situation.
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Ayan, kaya dapat nagpa-plan, di kayo go with the flow.
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So, it's always important to know where you can get financial help at a moment's notice.
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If you didn't know yet, Gcash offers exactly just that.
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If you're eligible for G-Loan, you can borrow up to 125,000 pesos in cash straight to your Gcash wallet.
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The best part, you can pay it back with flexible installment plans up to 24 months.
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Perfect na pang salo sa sabay-sabay na pangangailangan.
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Especially sa adulting era natin.
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So, what do you think about this?
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Yes, nititik kami ng loan.
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Sa G-Loan lang naman. So, maliliit-liit lang naman siya na expenses.
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But it helps a lot.
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Actually, yun ang nag-survive sa amin.
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Hanggang sa ngayon na nagkatrabaho na ako.
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Na okay, okay na. Pero minsan kailangan na saklalo.
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So, pag nag-moving in kasi yun, kailangan nyo naman appliances eh.
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Mobile lang. Swipe-swipe ka lang. Pindot-pindot.
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Magkaka-pera ka na pambili ng mga needs nyo.
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I think it's great na may ganung option that's easily accessible.
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You won't always have emergency funds.
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I don't think everyone has that privilege of having emergency funds.
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Kunyari, parang mga 5,000 lang may biglang bayarin tapos wala siya sa budget plan namin.
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So, ayun. Yes, we do take out loans.
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Makakatulong siyang makaraos for something.
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It will be helpful for us in the future.
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The best part living with my partner is actually just getting to live with them.
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Yun, may katuwang ka.
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Waking up na nandun siya. Matutulog ka, nandun siya.
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Lahat na gagawin mo, alam mo nandun siya.
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I get to have that privilege to witness Jules in his everyday life.
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Kasi you don't feel alone.
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Even if you're doing things alone, you feel like you have someone you can always talk to.
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Nahanap ko yung pahinga ko. Lalo na dito sa nakakapagod ng mundo.
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Because I've been working for like 14 years and I'm used to like taking it all myself.
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Like all the stress that I have at work and just take it all in.
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And you know, not say it to someone, not to share it to someone.
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But with Arlie, he's very caring.
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Tawa lang kami ng tao. Kahit ano tatawa na. Napaka nonsense namin tao. Ganun.
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Actually yung favorite memory ko with moving in with Lyle is yung first few months namin na parang yung space namin,
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yung apartment namin is parang bare pa. Parang ah, eto na. Eto na yung start.
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How do I make sure to balance romance and practicality?
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Well, ako yung mas romantic, mas idealist so to speak.
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Jules is the more practical one in our relationship.
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Hindi lahat ng gagawin mo kailangan mahal. You can be romantic naman na without spending money.
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Kunwari wala pang sahod. So maglalakad kami papuntang palengke.
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Parehas kami namimili ng mga prutas-prutas, gulay-gulay.
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Kaming dalawa parang tanga. Feeling namin nasa ano kami eh.
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Nasa TV kaming dalawa. Kunwari maglalakad kami papuntang palengke.
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Hmm, cute natin oh. Ganun, ganun kami eh.
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Siguro when I needed to go to the lab para lab work, she would ano kasi ipapack na damit ko,
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piprepare na damit ko, yung mga stuff na kailangan ko, yung laptop ko.
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So sa mga simple na bagay na yun parang na-appreciate ko na,
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hindi ko na kailangan sabihin sa kanya.
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Pag feeling mo na parang wala na akong time sa kanya, then that's the best time to get the best coffee for him.
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So when you come home, you give it to him. Kasi parang you still making extra effort despite your busy schedule.
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Parang we appreciate the small things and for us that's already romantic.
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Yun kasi hindi ko makita yung sarili ko na nangangarap na hindi siya kasama.
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He's someone I would wanna build home with.
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Parang may glimpse ako ano yung magiging home ko in the future.
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Yung layo nang nakita ko with her.
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Parang siguro mga nakalibing na ako, nakaganan na ako.
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Feeling ko, hindi ko feeling. I just know na I found the one.
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Yung decision na pag ma-move out or pag live in, madaling gawin yung decision na yan eh.
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Ang mahirap kasi kapag nandoon na kayo.
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Bago kayong mag-move in together, make sure na comfortable kayo enough sa isa't isa.
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Kasi yun yung taong makakasama mo everyday. Like wala ka pang makeup, wala ka pang kilay.
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Lahat ng disgusting things about you, malalaman niya.
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Parang sinabi mong disgusting, disgusting.
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Ako din naman! Siyempre pagising mo!
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Don't be afraid to hold the tough conversations.
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Ito alam, alam to ni, alam to ni Jules.
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Kasi he tends to be uncomfortable with difficult conversations, topics, ganyan.
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It's important that both of you are able to express frustration and happiness.
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And appreciate someone's effort.
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Every single time he would cook, it would still be the same reaction.
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And also, if you don't like it, like hindi ko gusto yung paglaba mo ng mga puting damit kanina.
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Kasi may natitira pang dumi. You have to communicate it, right?
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Just enjoy! Kasi I think ritual decision naman yun eh. Diba?
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Kung enjoy ka naman, you see the beauty of it, the little things together.
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I think it will flourish into something even better.
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