Real Couples Give Advice on Starting a Family | Filipino | Rec•Create
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I'm Hen and I'm China's partner Syempre
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asawa niya ako asawa ko siya
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a Syempre happy kami unang-una happy and
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Bless kami kasi may tatlo kaming ano mga
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tsikiting sobrang colorful never a dull
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moment with a baby talaga laging may
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moment na ayun katulad n h ko alam kung
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napick up sound sa akin naman yung
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expectation ko dati is Madali lang magka
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family kasi kung titingnan mo sa mga May
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family na dati ah madali lang with the
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kids pag may asawa ka na Madali lang
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lahat hindi pala totoo ung madali kasi
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buhayin mo pa lang ung sarili mo mahirap
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na bubuhay ka pa ng isa pang tao na
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nila na parang hindi pa sila ready agag
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magiging Ah hindi pa ako ready hindi pa
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ako stable malaking tulong lang na ready
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ka So ganun sa estado Pero pagdating dun
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sa parenting mag-a-adjust ka talaga
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Naalala ko nung weeks before siyang ma
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labor labor yung tawag Nakalimutan ko
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yung tawag maglabor Ang dami niyang
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pine-prepare ng mga things o day one day
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two ito gagawin day 3 ayun walang n
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sunod do even yung due date nga hindi
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niyo masusunod yon when you're new
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parent kasi you would think na Oh no i
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don't know anything about parenting pero
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when we had Our first child suddenly
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Changes everything talaga It's a switch
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nandun na Iyun eh given iun na siempre
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the moment na malaman mo na ha we're
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pregnant prepare ka na talaga saka
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parang different ata yyung Generation
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now na this Generation always wanted to
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be na dapat capable sila It's a step by
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step but it's not really like that
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there's no manual everyday may
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matututunan ka lagi kang may bagong
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emotion pag milestone na nung mga kids
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You do everything you do whatever it
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takes para maging ready ka What's the
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biggest change to expect when having
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kids biggest change to expect Ano yun
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ito kumbaga turn of events yun eh sa
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buhay mo halimbawa mag-hang out ka with
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friends mo hindi mo na siya magagawa
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agad-agaran minsan maipo-post mo yun if
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not titigil mo talaga magiging priority
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mo talaga yung family mo eh not just the
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bab your family gagawa ka ng mga gawaing
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bahay maglalaba magwawalis lahatlahat
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Uy ako gumagawa noun Ah sama ng tingin
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mo ah kasi syempre Ano yun eh alaga kang
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baby kahit pipiliin mo ng matulog Hindi
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pwede lalo agag yung tarantang parents
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ka actually ako Everytime na may bago sa
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mga anak ko nspro eh usually pag may
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first time talaga sila naiiyak talaga
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ako kasi first time eh pag si Alia si
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Alya pag kumakanta e Paborito pa naman
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nung anak ko beini pag kumakanta siya
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tos sumas sayo may mga bago siyang step
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na natututunan natutuwa ako tos
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sinasabihan ko pa sila min ganyan So Ang
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sarap kasi pag na-experience mo lahat ng
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first time doun mo masabi na ito pala
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yung pinaghirapan ko Everyday Kaya pala
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ako nagtatrabaho nag kasi para sa kanila
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embrace the change as in kasi di ba nga
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there's nothing constant in this world
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but change kasi kapagka na-cut up ka
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parang Hala Anong nangyayari ang dami ng
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gusto ko ganito pa rin wala diyan ka
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lang stagan ka lang kasi magplan ka man
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o hindi may change talagang darating Did
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you have any fears about becoming a
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parent as an overthinker
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iniisip ko na agad Anong gagawin ko next
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week Anong gagawin ko next month Hala
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anong anong checkup mo lalabas na ba si
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baby mga ganon maaalagaan ko ba sila ng
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maayos mabibigyan ko ba sila ng ano ng
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oras mapapalaki ko ba sila may disiplina
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ako one thing lang not seeing them grow
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pinakamasakit kasi with us kasi we
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wanted to be healthy also ngayon yun
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yung commitment namin na Okay kailangan
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maging healthy tayo kasi ang bilis na
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waki ng mga bata na so we wanted to see
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them grow and how will they Become An
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adult person nakakaiyak pala
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to ngayon pa nga lang parang kapag nag-s
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na si Ilay Gusto ko Ako yung maghahatid
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na Sundo yung gusto ko nandon ako sa
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lahat kasi nga yun yung hindi ko na
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experience nung bata ako kung paano ako
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magiging yung parang magiging best best
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friend na mommy parang maging open sila
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sa akin kahit hindi na sa daddy nila
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Grabe ka naman one thing siguro na very
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common with other couples is expense of
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having a child parang meron akong
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constant fear even now walang makakapag
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provide ba ako as the father sa family
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ngayon iniisip ko nagsusumikap ako na
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ano sa trabaho mag sideline sideline
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para maano mafulfill yyung mga needs
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nila siguro Iyung essential at start it
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is expensive pero once you manage kung
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paano ba talaga ah may ganito may mga
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tips and tricks kung paano makatipid sa
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ganito sa mga ganitong bagay it will go
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along the way mas maganda kung mas ready
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ang isang couple together financially
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kasi It's still a financial
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responsibility pero na-overcome ko naman
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yyun dahil lang kay Shina din kunwari
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may 200 thoughts a second ka t sabihin
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mo Bob Okay lang yan you're doing great
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G How do you manage the stress that
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Comes with raising a young family
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important pa din for me yung personal
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time Oo parents na kayo magshare you're
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sharing a child with each other pero
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important pa din yung individuality lalo
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na sa kanya sa side niya na talagang
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yung si Ilay yung baby namin as in Tuko
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sa kanya talaga iiyak talaga kapag pag
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nawala na talaga yung nanay niya sa
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kanya So I'll make it a point na Ah sige
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akin muna si Ilay for a couple of hours
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para lang Okay lang d hayaan mo lang
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siya na Magpahinga yung stress naman sa
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at the end of the day sag nag-usap naman
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kami kung ano yung Saan kami nahihirapan
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kung may naipon na ba kami ung
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pinag-usapan namin kung ano yung may
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problema ba sa bahay problema sa bahay
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tapos ah the next day doon iibahin na
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namin yung adjust mag-a-adjust na kami
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na ano kung anong gagawin natin dito
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para hindi na tayo ma-stress out
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Nabanggit ko nga kanina yung chores ' ba
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Napunta na lang sa kanya yung Cooking so
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Minsan tinatamad pa siya yun isa kasi sa
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araw-araw na decision pinakamahirap
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decison sa buong buhay mo araw-araw na a
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na namang uulam kasi ako nagtatrabaho
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ako tuwing gabi so nagfo-focus
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definitely is a game changer Ang weird
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kasi share ko lang yyung mga cravings
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nio before na gusto niya yung manggang
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bubot na nasa tuktok ng puno pag hindi
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pag nasa baba Hindi niya daw kakainin to
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be honest naghanap talaga ako su grab ng
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mga ano nagbebenta ng ano dito mangga
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hindi na kami ma-hassle
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kasi time din yun eh ag nagpapa-check up
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sa mga babies grab car Oo mas madali
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siya is magaantay ka na lang sa bahay
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tapos pupunta na lang kayong ospital
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kasi pagka ano talaga may kids ka na
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totoo talaga na napakadami niyong
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siya minsan pinaka lif saver pa sa akin
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is yung grocery parts of the grocery na
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kulang sa house You're with your kids at
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the same time you're just waiting for it
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to come in mas malaki Iyung savings niya
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eh kasi um for example It's unlimited so
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discount yung 250 parang magiging 230 na
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lang So yung Php20 Malaking ano yun
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malaking pagtitipid kung gagamit ka ng
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grab everyday Sayang 88% ' ba every piso
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is important kami sa bahay every
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afternoon kasi lumalabas kami ng
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naglalabas kami sa bahay tumatambay kami
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sa bas ng bahay namin doon kami
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naglalaro yung mga
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bata merenda time Naglalaro kami habang
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naghihintay kami saating na lang yung
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grab ba So yun It gives you more time It
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gives you more time to your kids
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especially lalo na syempre mga bata
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laging gusto laro Dada let's play let's
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go there let's go there let's play
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ganyan Gan so madali siya for us hindi
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kami nahihirapan does starting a family
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change your romantic relationship with
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other Yes it does talaga kasi first when
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you transition from a couple into a
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married couple medyo Ano na siya eh
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parang the responsibility is Twice as
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much and then the time that you give
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inside a marriage is as much compared to
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being a couple that you're just dating
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getting to know each other more sexy Tay
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lang paano talaga mag katabi mo yung
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nasa gitna si aay Paano talagang feeling
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ko yun ngayon kasi nafi-feel ko parang
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mas nawala talaga yung ano Normal lang
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yun kumbaga sa Science yung hormones ng
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mom mas nakakatu siya sa baby mo to
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nurture your baby malaking transition
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talaga kasi syempre kailangan mong
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unahin talaga yung bata ' ba parang
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Depende pa rin na sa couple eh parang sa
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amin kasi ang Goal namin meron pa ring
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Intimacy between sa aming dalawa kasi
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syempre In Time naman lalaki Yung mga
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kids aalis sila sa atin nagkakaroon din
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sila ng family para at least pag kami na
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ulit dalawa ung magkasama Ano pa din
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Parang romantic pa din s conscious
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effort kasi talaga eh mayung mga tao na
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sa tingin ko my opinion na kaya saabi
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nila nafa-fall Out Of Love sila Kasi
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wala ng conscious effort to to
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reciprocate ay hindi naman kasi
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binibigay sa akin So why effort ako mas
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nire-represent ko sa kanya na maganda ka
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na I love you mawawala rin ung
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communication niyo together pagka ganun
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eh pag nawala ung ganung moment ung
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first time ko Nagkaroon kami ng anak si
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Alia yung panganay namin nafi-feel niya
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na pag nag-aaway kami so tototoo pala
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talaga na yung bata nakaka-feel sila na
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agag may nangyayaring tension sa
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mag-asawa na-feel ng mga bata kasi
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mahirap naman magsabi kami ng mahal
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mahal namin yung anak namin hindi naman
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namin mahal yung isa't isa ba yung
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energy na o ' ba So yun ang gusto ko
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lang para ma-experience ng mga anak
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namin kung paano kami magmahal ng buo
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Kaya minsan ako yung nag-iinitiate na
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gala naman tayo takasan lang natin yung
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kids for ano lang kasi minsan kailangan
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lang din namin ng kaming dalawa lang
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kahit once a week just for us the two of
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us kasi iba pa rin na may alone time
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kami Kailangan ko ng alone
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time and then Syempre family time pa rin
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most of the time So yun What's been the
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most rewarding part of starting a family
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yung mga kids the kids I mean nung
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before Di ba maraming parents na
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nagsasabi na nung nakita nila yung baby
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nila Parang nawawala lahat ng pagod so
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before Hindi ko naman naiintindihan yun
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kasi ano ba naman wala naman akong anak
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Pero super true non kasi nung binigay
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saakin si Ilay nung After nung operation
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kasi na-cs ako hindi ka pa fully
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recovered sa anestesia t's nung binigay
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siya parang wala parang sobrang gaanong
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feeling t's sobrang Yun nga nakalimutan
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mo na lahat nung ano nung paghihirap mo
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nung buntis ka sabi siguro ni G Ah pwede
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na on maging parents Pasado na kami sa
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pagiging parents kaya Sige bigyan natin
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two kids yan ganon isa pa Uy kahit na
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malayo ako layo kong titingin yung mga
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picture ng mga anak ko eh Hindi na yung
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picture niya e h di Hindi pero ano yung
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happiness na nabibigay talaga nila yun
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talaga yung para sa akin ano ah hindi
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mawawala kahit Nakakapagod silang
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alagaan Makita mo lang talaga yung
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bungisngis yung tawan niya Ayun napaka
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fullfilling na saakin na ano healthy
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yung mga kids tapos nagba-bonding kami B
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maiyak pa ako niyan for new parents give
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and take it's not 501 It's Never going
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5149 Okay na yyun pero most likely may
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mga days na magiging 99 and one eh kung
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yung 1% mo That's your 100% sobrang Ano
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na non game changer na non basta Hwag ka
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ng aabot talaga sa zero kasi the fact na
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you're still giving your 100% as the 1%
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Ano na yun eh iun na iyung sign of
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commitment mo trust each other and um
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the more you trust each other the more
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you love each other it will come
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magti-ayon What's your Why the bigger
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the y the Harder you try so Iyun iyung
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akin na my Why is my family so I I work
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hard I try Harder para sa kanila kasi
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yung happiness na nabibigay nila gusto
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kong palitan yung nabibigay nilang
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happiness na maging masaya rin sila
